I strive to be a trophy wife. But not the kind described above. Although for many years, that was the type of trophy wife I sought after being. Over the last five years, and even more pointedly over the last year, God has been speaking to my heart and changing my desire of what type of wife I want to be. I still strive to be a trophy wife, but in a different way.
The kind of trophy wife I want to be is described below:
"An excellent wife is the crown of her husband..." Prov. 12:4a
"...for her worth is far above jewels." Prov. 31:10
"Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised." Prov. 31:30
"Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she smiles at the future. She opens her mouth in wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and bless her; her husband also, and he praises her, saying: "Many daughters have done nobly, but you excel them all." Prov. 31:25-29
"to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored." Titus 2:5
My point is, I want to be the prize of my husband. Not in a way that is shallow and fading, but in a real way. A way that brings honor to my husband. A way that encourages him and builds him, helping him to be a stronger leader - in our home, in the church, and on his job. In a way that shows him love, real love. In a way that tells him I believe he can do all things through Christ who gives him strength (Phil. 4:13). In a way that changes the atmosphere of our household and affects my community. Sure, I also want to try to be physically attractive to my husband, but even that outward beauty is going to be a reflection of the beauty of my heart.
Let's not forget also, that as the church, we are the bride of Christ. I want to bring my groom, Christ Jesus, honor as well.
What kind of wife are you? What kind of wife do you want to be?